Is She Waiting for Me to Ask Her Out Again

I've never had a girlfriend before, and not sure I have the guts to ask someone out. I'll probably get a load of 'man-up' responses - but if a girl likes you and they know you're shy, may they eventually ask you out?

I would ask her out, definitely, if I thought I loved her, but at the moment I'm not sure and only think it may work. I would hate to ask her out and find she is really into me and only discover I don't like her in that way and hurt her.

If that makes sense... what do you think? - should I wait or just go for it?

Only the girls of TSR say they will ask in guy out. In my experience girls want to guys to ask them out. They will never ask you out.

Most girls would want you to ask, so go for itt! =]

Ask her out!! At least you would have tried

no need to make it into a big weird thing just ask her if she wants to go have some dinner with you lol

lol just don't think about it too much, be normal and just ask if she's hungry or something lol

tho i mean im talking if u actually know her, if not then just talk to her till u do, then u can jsut ask if u want some dinner and be 10x more relaxed about it because u know her better and more comfortable

If it was me you were waiting for, you'd be waiting a long time because I never ask guys out! If a guy doesn't say anything, I just assume he's not interested, and go for a guy who is. There are enough guys who will show they are interested, that I feel I don't need to 'waste any time' as such, on those who don't seem like they like me enough to ask me out.

Just do it, it doesn't have to be a big deal - just ask if she would like a drink with you sometime. Girls like being asked, chances are she'll say yes. Good luck

(Original post by kat91s)
If it was me you were waiting for, you'd be waiting a long time because I never ask guys out! If a guy doesn't say anything, I just assume he's not interested, and go for a guy who is. There are enough guys who will show they are interested, that I feel I don't need to 'waste any time' as such, on those who don't seem like they like me enough to ask me out.

Just do it, it doesn't have to be a big deal - just ask if she would like a drink with you sometime. Girls like being asked, chances are she'll say yes. Good luck

I agree. I don't think girls are against asking guys out. It's just that it makes a girl feel a lot better if the man does the asking. If you're unsure about her at the moment then getting to know her better won't do any harm. I do think though that there are some things you can never be sure of so you just have to give it a try. Good luck

Chances are she won't ask you out, the majority of girls want a guy to ask them out first. So I'd suggest you just go for it. It won't do any harm just asking her out for a drink or something? Good luck.

(Original post by Anonymous)
I've never had a girlfriend before, and not sure I have the guts to ask someone out. I'll probably get a load of 'man-up' responses - but if a girl likes you and they know you're shy, may they eventually ask you out?

I would ask her out, definitely, if I thought I loved her, but at the moment I'm not sure and only think it may work. I would hate to ask her out and find she is really into me and only discover I don't like her in that way and hurt her.

If that makes sense... what do you think? - should I wait or just go for it?

How long have you known her? Are you friends/acquaintances? What is really stopping you from asking her out? Maybe it is more to do with your lack of experience and you are using the excuse that you don't know if you like her. Anyway, dating is about getting to know someone so you shoul just ask her out on a date already.

Most girls won't do it. A lot of girls i know say its embarassing for a girl to ask a guy out, i don't know why they think like this! Most guys would be flattered if a nice girl came up to them, i know i would be. They may make it blindingly obvious but they won't directly ask you out. Once you're comfortable around her you just have to go for it. Easier said than done i know, i have no confidence in myself at all appearance wise (in terms of personality i know i'm fine, apart from being a tad shy) and i can't see why anyone would go for me so its bloody hard for me to do anything that shows i'm interested, even if i really like her.

It doesn't have to be a 'date' as such, just invite her for a drink or something. Anywhere where you can talk to each other, you'd be doing that sort of thing if you were friends anyway so she's hardly going to say no is she? Trust me its so much worse doing nothing and wondering if she feels the same way.

(Original post by Misnomer)
How long have you known her? Are you friends/acquaintances? What is really stopping you from asking her out? Maybe it is more to do with your lack of experience and you are using the excuse that you don't know if you like her. Anyway, dating is about getting to know someone so you shoul just ask her out on a date already.

The problem is she lives in the flat across from me at university. Her and the group of guys are always over and doing stuff together. So if I were to ask her she'd obviously know I like her, and if she didn't feel the same way it would make things rather awkward...

(Original post by Anonymous)
The problem is she lives in the flat across from me at university. Her and the group of guys are always over and doing stuff together. So if I were to ask her she'd obviously know I like her, and if she didn't feel the same way it would make things rather awkward...

Them's the risks with this kind of thing.

To answer the original post title, I'd not wait for her to ask, as generally speaking it's not that common even now.

Assuming you know her well enough to speak to her I'd look at it from the point of view that if I REALLY wanted to ask, I'd be inclined to let her know regardless of the response, rather than just wondering about / putting off asking her and eventually regretting it when she hooks up with someone else instead leaving you wondering 'would she have said yes to me?'.

Easier said than done, but there's not much in this life that's worth having that will just present itself to you on a plate as it were. You have to work for what you want to get.

Hey, as I am a girl :P I would always want the guy to ask, if you really are not sure then you most likely do not like her.....
And as to what to say if she asks you....youre on you own!
ha no, just be really nice and not a **** about it if you have to 'reject' her, just explain that you are not attracted to her.
If you just want to go out with her just because you dont want to say no to upset her then its going to hurt more for the girl than a simple 'im sorry but im just not attracted to you'
YES ITS nerve racking boys, but GUYS remember its just as scary for girls, because we WAIT and WAIT for YOU to ask us and get our hopes down because your scared! If its easier, get to know us and casually bring it into a conversation, or ask to go out to the cinema!

(Original post by Anonymous)
The problem is she lives in the flat across from me at university. Her and the group of guys are always over and doing stuff together. So if I were to ask her she'd obviously know I like her, and if she didn't feel the same way it would make things rather awkward...

I thought you said she liked you???

From my own experience, DO. NOT. WAIT. I thought I'd do that myself; there was a girl I liked, and a few people said she liked me (or it seemed that way). I honestly thought she did too. But I waited, to get a better idea of where I stood. Now I think she's seeing someone else (maybe not, but I think I've missed my chance regardless).

Do it now, or someone else will.

Most girls want to be asked out theres only a tiny amount that will ask a guy out and believe me its tiny. Also if you really like her and believe she likes you I don't know whats stopping you. If she says no at least you know the answer no need to be scared of rejection.

Also its nice for you as a guy to approach the girl and ask her out it shows that you got confidence and respect for her and even if she says no to you a girl will most likely let you down gently if you did ask her out. Theres only a small amount of girls out there who will try and enjoy the moment and make you feel like a fool and they're not worth being with anyway. Its really up to you what you say to her because only you know how you feel about her.

The most you could expect is a heavy hint that she is intrested such as:

"If you were to ask me out I would say yes "

BUT. chances of a girl officially asking you out... 0.00000000000001%

All that will happen is you'll wait...and wait...and wait until she get's bored and it's all finished before it ever started.

I wouldn't ask a guy out
Just go for it lad, what have you got to lose?

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